Questions to Ask Your Partner to Spark Intimacy: Advice from a Denver Couple’s Therapist.
Many relationships fail because of the lack of intimacy in a relationship. The most detrimental thing you can do in a relationship is to become roommates and strangers. It's easy for life to get in the way and the relationship to take a back seat. As a relationship therapist at Authentic Connections Therapy and Wellness, I have seen this happen time and time again.
Familiarity Creates Complacency
As you start getting more comfortable in a relationship, you tend to stop trying to get to know your partner. You feel as if you already know your partner so well, you might even think that you know what they would answer to these questions. Be curious about your partner and remind yourself that the same way you are not the same person you were a year ago, your partner is also not the same person. Be curious about the ways they’ve changed and seek opportunities to get to know your partner better.
Below are some questions for you to ask your partner
Whether you want to ask a question randomly or grab a bottle of wine and have a date night out of this – it’s all fair game! The only rule is to be curious. What do I not know about my partner?
About Your Partner
What do you find exciting in your life right now?
What are your biggest worries about the future?
What do you want your life to be like in three years?
If you could have three wishes, what would they be?
What’s your biggest goal/dream?
Describe your perfect day (all things allowed – time travel, unlimited money, etc.)
About the Relationship
How do you think our relationship has changed in the last couple of months?
How have I changed in the relationship?
When you first met me, did you ever think our relationship would be like this right now?
What surprised you about dating me?
What do you like most about our relationship?
What do I do that turns you on that I have no idea about?
For Parents and Soon to be Parents
What kind of person do you think our child(ren) will become? Any fears? Any hopes?
How would you compare yourself as a caregiver as compared to your caregivers growing up?
What do you want to take and what do you want to leave from your family culture
Debrief Session
What is something you learned doing this exercise?
What did you learn about your relationship?
Describe what you are feeling in one word after hearing your partner’s answers.
Looking for more fun ways to get intimate with your partner? Check out more ideas on the Card Decks App or the Where Should We Begin Game
Couples Counseling Denver, Colorado
Whether it's infidelity, trust issues, communication difficulties, and more, we are here to help. Our skilled therapists at Authentic Connections Therapy and Wellness can help you on your journey to finding a deeper meaning in your relationship!
Follow the steps below to get started.
1. We encourage you to get to know a little bit about our therapists, their specializations, and their credentials. Get to know our therapists here.
2. If you think Couples Counseling, or Individual Relationship Therapy with a focus on intimacy is for you, reach out to us! You can use our convenient online consultation scheduling here.
3. Begin the exciting journey of understanding your relationships, and bringing fun and intimacy back to your relationship!
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