Valentine’s Day can be a tricky time for polyamorous people. While society often emphasizes the day as one for couples, those in polyamorous relationships may feel the pressure to balance multiple connections, manage expectations, and navigate potential feelings of jealousy or exclusion.

Letting people into the inner workings of your relationship style and identity can be helpful on the journey towards showing up as your authentic self in all aspects of life. For many, sharing with family and friends that you identify as non-monogamous—whether polyamorous, open, or exploring alternative relationship structures—can be a daunting but necessary step. Here’s how to navigate this journey with grace and authenticity.