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Gardening for Mental Health: A Mindful Approach to Emotional Resilience

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, finding effective ways to support our mental health is essential. While traditional psychotherapy offers invaluable tools for self-reflection and emotional healing, nature provides a unique and deeply restorative avenue for well-being. One such natural remedy, accessible to many, is gardening. Beyond its obvious physical benefits, gardening can be a powerful tool for enhancing mental health, mindfulness, and emotional resilience.

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Recovering from Religious Trauma: Setting Boundaries and Reclaiming Your Identity

Religious trauma is something that many people don’t often talk about, but it’s more common than you might think. Whether you grew up in a strict religious environment or experienced a traumatic event within a faith community, the emotional and psychological scars can run deep. To add insult to injury, healing from religious trauma can be a long and complex journey.


The first step in healing from religious trauma is simply acknowledging that it’s real. Whether your trauma stems from manipulation, shame, guilt, or emotional abuse, it’s okay to admit that what you went through has left a mark on you. 


If you’ve been through religious trauma, there’s a chance you may carry a lot of guilt or shame with you. This might be because you’ve been conditioned to feel like you're “wrong” for questioning or leaving the faith, or perhaps you've internalized messages that made you feel unworthy.


The emotional aftermath of religious trauma often comes with confusion, anger, and grief. You might find yourself questioning your beliefs, or you could feel disconnected from your community or even your sense of self. That’s all normal. Your feelings are valid, and it’s important to give yourself permission to feel them.

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Body Image After the Holidays: Embracing Yourself Without the Pressure to Change

The holiday season is over. The decorations are starting to be packed away, many holiday celebrations have passed, and the excitement of the new year is starting to settle into regular life again. But for many of us, there’s a lingering feeling after the holidays: a little more pressure to “bounce back” or “make up for” the variety of delicious foods we’ve enjoyed over the past few weeks. Whether it’s from the extra treats, the comfy holiday clothes, or the pressure of common new year’s resolutions, it’s easy to feel like you need to change something about your body.

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Individual Therapy, LGBTQ+, Trauma Therapy, Sex Therapy Dr. Bonnie Kester Individual Therapy, LGBTQ+, Trauma Therapy, Sex Therapy Dr. Bonnie Kester

Redefining Beauty: Embracing Body Diversity and Building a Positive Self-Image in a Social Media World

Body image refers to how we perceive our physical selves and how we think others perceive us. It’s a complex interplay of self-esteem, societal standards, and personal experiences. For many, this perception can be strongly influenced by external forces, such as social media and the larger cultural context, as well as internal insecurities. Beauty standards are often unattainable and unhealthy, which can place us in a double bind of striving for external appearances different than our own, or feeling like we are unattractive or outcasted from others.

Social media, family culture, and our larger cultural contexts play significant roles in shaping our body image. For every gender, racial identity, sexual orientation, age, ability, religion, socioeconomic status, and so on, beauty standards can vary, which can create a very confusing, conflicting, and further unattainable goalpost to reach—one that seems to move with every passing year.  

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Unlocking Authenticity: The Transformative Mental Health Benefits of HRT for Trans and Non-Binary Individuals

A Few of the Many Benefits of HRT for Trans/NB+ Folx

In recent years, there has been growing recognition of the profound impact hormone replacement therapy (HRT) can have on the psychological well-being of transgender and non-binary (trans/NB+)  folx. While the physical changes brought about by HRT are often highlighted, the emotional and mental health benefits are equally significant and deserving of attention. HRT has a high potential to contribute to a more fulfilling and authentic life for many trans/NB+ people.

 

Alignment with Gender Identity

One of the most profound psychological benefits of HRT is the alignment it may foster between an individual’s physical body and their gender identity. For some trans/NB+ folx, gender dysphoria—the discomfort or distress arising from a mismatch between gender identity and assigned sex at birth—can lead to significant psychological distress. HRT helps alleviate this dysphoria, enabling individuals to feel more comfortable in their own skin. This alignment can lead to increased self-esteem and a greater sense of self-acceptance. It is important to note, however, that not all trans/NB+ people experience gender dysphoria. Of these folx who do not experience gender dysphoria, some still choose to receive HRT as a means to affirm their identity and live more authentically to their specific experience.

 

Reduction in Emotional Discomfort

Numerous studies have shown that trans/NB+ folx who receive HRT often experience a reduction in anxiety, depression, thoughts of self-harm or suicide, and disordered eating behaviors. The emotional relief that comes from feeling more congruent with one’s gender identity can be transformative. For many, the physical changes—such as breast development, voice changes, body hair changes, or body fat redistribution—can provide a sense of relief and happiness that improves overall mental health and quality of life. This often leads to increased participation in everyday activities, pursuing their interests and goals, and engaging with their communities.

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For many trans/NB+ folx, choosing to receive HRT is an act of empowerment and self-love. It fosters a sense of agency that can be incredibly affirming. The psychological benefits of HRT for trans/NB+ folx extend far beyond physical changes. HRT can significantly improve mental health by alleviating gender and body dysphoria, enhancing one’s relationship with their gender, and fostering a sense of empowerment and self-love. As society continues to grow in its understanding of trans/NB+ identities, recognizing the holistic benefits of HRT will be essential in supporting the well-being of trans/NB+ folx. Embracing and affirming one’s identity is a powerful journey, and HRT plays a vital role in helping many navigate this path toward empowerment in one’s identity.


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Unlocking Healing: How Trauma Affects Sexual Health and Pathways to Reclaiming Intimacy

Sexual health is a fundamental aspect of overall well-being, yet many individuals struggle with sexual dysfunction, often linked to past trauma. Understanding the relationship between trauma and sexual dysfunction can empower those affected and pave the way for healing, connection, and pleasure. No experience of traumatic events is undeserving of care and attention, especially when it has impacts on different areas of functioning.

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Queer for the Holidays: Going Home to an Unaccepting Family

For many LGBTQ+ individuals, the holidays can be a time of mixed emotions. The idea of returning home to family is a universal one, but for those in the LGBTQ+ community, it sometimes comes with the heavy weight of potential rejection, fear, and anxiety. While some might find comfort and solace in being with their loved ones, for others, the journey home is riddled with emotional challenges. This post is an exploration of the complexities of being LGBTQ+ and navigating the experience of returning home to a family that might not understand or accept your identity.

The decision to go home can be difficult. You might feel the pull of tradition and nostalgia, the desire to reconnect with your roots, or the longing for family warmth, but it’s often accompanied by deep dread. The question of whether to come out, whether to be yourself, or whether to hide part of who you are can occupy your mental space. For many, these questions come with the pain of not being able to live authentically in a space where love and acceptance should be unconditional.


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